Entirely possible with enough commitment, and once you've changed your thoughts, your new and improved life begins...

Here’s a comprehensive list of just some of the things that I cover in my coaching. They form the foundation of self improvement. Knowing what they are is one thing, but then implementing them in a way that ensures that you stay consistent and committed is where I come in…

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It's happening all of the time whether you realise it or not. You're just so accustomed to it, it feels normal, and it is, but are you keeping an eye on what "it's" saying? You get to decide that.

If you need confidence, talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend.

If you need persistence, talk to yourself the way you would talk to a student.

If you need patience, talk to yourself the way you would talk to a child."

Sometimes, the short and sweet messages are the most impactful and easiest to take onboard >

Whatever your self Improvement goal is...

"Becoming consistently good, is better than being occasionally perfect".

You have to remind yourself that you're
The One. You have to do it every day.
Every single one. Greatness starts with
confidence. And confidence can start
with doubt. The work silences that
insecurity..but it's still there. Watching.
From a distance. Waiting for the
moment when you forget who you are.
In those times- you must relentlessly
remember. Who you are, what you've
done, what you're capable of. You must
repeat it in your mind to the point of
insanity. Because insane self-belief is the
only path, to insane outcomes.

Any big goal of some sort can't be achieved without a structured plan, particularly if the process is new to you. This will be the case for a lot of people.

Goals, especially big ones, can be life changing. But therin lies the challenge... life needs to change to achieve goals that change life.

The bigger the goal, the bigger the changes that have to be made. Sacrifices will be necessary, old and unhelpful habits need to go, as well as useless, time draining distractions. Also, what you see as existing commitments may need to be reassessed. Many aspects of one's current lifestyle may have to change, and by that, what I actually mean is "replaced".

KEEP YOUR THOUGHTS POSITIVE
BECAUSE YOUR THOUGHTS BECOME
YOUR WORDS.

KEEP YOUR WORDS POSITIVE
BECAUSE YOUR WORDS BECOME
YOUR BEHAVIOUR.

KEEP YOUR BEHAVIOUR POSITIVE
BECAUSE YOUR BEHAVIOUR BECOMES
YOUR HABITS.

KEEP YOUR HABITS POSITIVE
BECAUSE YOUR HABITS BECOME
YOUR VALUES.

KEEP YOUR VALUES POSITIVE
BECAUSE YOUR VALUES BECOME
YOUR DESTINY.

- MAHATMA GANDHI

Just a quick reflection on what evidence you have to support what you're thinking, can be a game changer, and it's a process you end up carrying out naturally once you get into the habit of fact checking your beliefs. It can make all of the difference to your internal perspective and interpretation of people, occurrences, situations, the past, the future, essentially day to day life.

"If you look for evidence that people are conspiring to hold you back and the world is working against you, then it will take you no time at all to find precisely that.

If you expect to encounter helpful people and experience a world that is working with you, then you find plenty of evidence to support that view as well.”

I am always available for a free and friendly 30 minute call to talk about what you may be struggling with or what you may want to improve upon in your life through 1 to 1 coaching - Just message me ❤️

Here's the process...

Set your vision 👀

Break it down ✍️

Keep moving forward ➡️

One small win at a time ✅️

And the goal will come 🏆

Dream big....
BUT start small...
THEN take action...
Every day 🌟

✨ What’s the 'one thing' you can do right now to get closer? ✨

Contact me for 1 to 1 coaching on this.

Getting knocked back over and over again can be incredibly wearing on an individual, regardless of what the reasons are. A previously bubbly, social, confident, engaging, optimistic person can be left withdrawn, uncertain, nervous, and ultimately unhappy about themselves, and life itself can then be a miserable experience as a consequence.

How can we change? What can we do? Well, we start... at the start. Small changes in how we go about our daily lives. Nothing too complicated or overwhelming or difficult.

If you find yourself resonating with this to some degree, have a good long look at the image. I can promise you 100% that even if you started to incorporate one of these into your daily life, you will experience a difference. It may not be monumental or life changing, but no one said it would be. The life changing stuff comes later, these are the building blocks.

A reframe that changed my life:

Failure = Data.

Every mistake is feedback. A real-time report on what works, and what doesn’t.

It is impossible to change or improve without making mistakes... impossible.

The mechanism of change and development simply requires mistakes. It may sound odd, but it is 100% true.

A lot of people see failures and mistakes as a dead end. Others see it as a signal to adjust. You put a car in the wrong gear and it immediately tells you that you've made a mistake, so you correct it and away you go.

Don’t crumble. Just course correct.

After a failure, ask yourself:

1. What went wrong? (be specific)

2. What decision or action led to that outcome?

3. What can I do differently next time?

Analyse. Adjust. Refine.

The difference between stuck and progress? How you process failure.

Always. Fail. Forward.

Now get after it... again.

The whole life purpose thing has become an issue for more and more people nowadays, especially those who are entering mid life and beyond. I have personally been through this.

The ancient saying from the eternally wise Confucius really comes into play for a lot of people at this stage in their life...

"We have two lives; the second begins when we realise we only have one"

This realisation is two sided. On one hand it's a huge positive that can jolt a person into action and become an incredible driver in motivating them to become the person they want to be whilst simultaneously escaping the cookie cutter life they've ended up with. Though, on the other hand, this realisation can trigger anxiety, worry, and even have a depressing effect on someone when the idea that "time is running out" starts to take hold; like many such ruminations, it begins to fuel itself, allowing it to grow and compound.

It's a natural want, but one that was developed when we were still swinging through the trees of Borneo, fighting over bananas.

Does being liked by people have its place in modern day? of course, but that primal part of our brain which does so much to keep us safe and alert, still drives the irrational need to be liked by everyone... until we address it.

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It is important for chimps to be part of social groups in the jungles, to be included and valued... and ultimately protected; it is crucial to their survival. This is why so many of us are still driven by the need to be liked by everyone.

Recognising this and acknowledging that it isn't relevant to humans walking around cities with food, water, shelter, safety at their disposal, is the first step in shaking off this unnecessary affliction... and in shaking this off, we then in turn often shake off the by-products that often come with it, such as feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, feelings of needing to please, self consciousness, low self esteem and confidence, the list goes on.

Just remember what it says in the picture... even YOU don't like everyone, and that's completely normal. You're normal.

I'm here if you're struggling with this one, it can be very difficult to shake off after a lifetime of believing it.

Stop punishing yourself for not living what society calls the perfect ‘balanced’ life.

Balance is not only subjective, but it has the ability to change shape every single day.

I am always available for a free and friendly call to talk about what you may be struggling with or what you may want to improve upon in your life.

I've been there and am now helping people change their lives > Just DM me

What does balance look like for you? It will rarely be same as someone else's.

Stress? Self Esteem? Confidence? No Purpose? Just Not Happy? Health? Fitness? Motivation?

I've been there and am now helping people change their lives.

I am always available for a free and friendly call to talk about what you may be struggling with or what you may want to improve upon in your life > Just DM me for a free and friendly call to talk about what you need to happen

Below is a very small list in the grand scheme of things, but ALL of it essentially revolves around the third one in the list - Habits. The make up of our entire lives revolves around what we do every minute of every day, and what we do is mostly done out of habit. The brain is running programs automatically, we are largely autonomous creatures. These programs can be looked at if we're feeling any sort of mental struggle. They sometimes need changing as they can often be a result of societal and family conditioning, and also previous life experiences, leaving us with a false sense of reality.

Lots of habits are pretty healthy for us, but some are far from healthy, and in fact are often one of the main factors that are determining how we are feeling at any given moment. Getting your daily habits right and making them the new norm, will change how you feel, which changes how you think. which ultimately changes how you perceive yourself, the world, and other people. Get that right and your life changes.

I'm here to guide you through that process, it's well worth the effort.